20 comments on “Would This Count as “Daddy Issues”?

    • Thank you ‘Nessa. Sometimes I wait for “mania” to poke its head out because overconfidence is often hid in manic phases but I do feel it is genuine. It hasn’t been an easy road, but I am glad I took it. ♥

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  1. CONGRATS. :) Always good to be thoughtful about priorities and to do some of the old things in new ways if you know what I mean. Sure you’re doing well loving on yourself, but you also have a better opportunity of meeting someone really nice and really “level” and making it happen in a more satisfying way That’s my take anyway .

    What does Daddy have to do with it? :)

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    • I think you are spot on with the way you view it. I am not pining for a man to come along, and that is reflected in my behavior and attitude. It will be more satisfying when I do meet someone who compliments me well. :-)

      LOL, You know how they often say that women who behave in certain ways have daddy issues… when I was thinking of a title for this, it just popped into my head and I had to roll with it. ;)

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  2. It would count as resolving them! You don’t “need” to trick or seduce men for self esteem or validation or any other reason now, because you have found yourself and you are happy – because you have placed the source of your happiness back into yourself. You are in control, and you feel good. It shows. And soon enough, whether weeks or months, the men who are attracted to you won’t be the men who are attracted to vulnerability, but men who are attracted to strength.

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    • Ahhhhhh, such wise words Edward! You are very right and I love that I finally feel this way. I remember 2 years ago trying to pummel into my head “only you can make yourself happy”… no matter how many times I said it, I couldn’t figure it out, so to speak. Now, it just is. It wasn’t easy getting to this point by any means… but instant gratification is another lesson well learned.

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  3. This was really nice to read. It’s so amazingly liberating when you figure out that you can live for you and not for others. It’s something I struggle with too sometimes. Here’s to you and enjoying your own company! :)

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    • Thank you Madame! It is liberating and a truly amazing feeling. I have lived for so long either “for” others or thinking I could not survive alone. I feel like this is a huge breakthrough and I am very happy about it. :) Cheers to enjoying our own company!

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  4. Yes, this is definitely about learning to love “me”. What a candid, beautiful and insightful and insightful post; something so many can learn from. Love.. Heart, Linda

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  5. it’s always important to getting to know you and loving yourself. a good number of people have used the idea that having another in their life is supposed to fill that void. but there also is great pressure from society that pushes the relationship status as making oneself whole. so a lot of times we forget about ourselves and jump into something when we are incomplete. good for you muse:) i’ve been on my own for 23 years and have learned a great deal from all of that. i suppose if i were to land in any relationship i’d be so happy that the next day i’d be resting in a coffin because the guy upstairs said, “he finally became complete to enter outer world.”

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  6. It’s interesting…I was just talking to my doctor about tendency to seek sex when I’m sliding back down into depression. Male attention has always been a way of me avoiding myself and the fact that I don’t know how to love myself right now. Thank you for writing this. You expressing the fact that it took 2 years to get to a place where you could love yourself makes me feel hopeful. It also makes me feel less frustrated with myself for not knowing how to love myself because it’s not something that will happen overnight.

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    • I am so glad that you can relate to this and realize that it will not happen overnight. I have struggled with this for MANY years but since 2009, my life was virtually a mess. I was just surviving most of the time. This last year has been an eye opening year. It took time to get to this place that I am at and I admit that I too had no clue how to love myself. I use a-lot of positive affirmations and accepting what is without “judging”. We judge ourselves so harshly. When I get into that state of mind, I step back from it instantly and “accept” the feelings… then I remind myself of what I have learned and the progress I have made… and I remind myself that all the poor decisions I have made, were made with the best intentions.
      You will get there… remember to tell yourself the good things about you… ♥

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  7. Wonderful post and I’m so happy you’re learning to love “me!” That’s what counts most before loving others…you are a beautiful soul; keep shining your light! ♥

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    • Thank you so much (is it Lauren? I think I had read your name on another blog comment. I apologize if I am wrong).
      Learning to love myself has been a HUGE step. I use to cry my eyes out in therapy asking her “how”… “how” do I forgive the wrongs I have done and love who I am. I tear up remembering back… so this, for me, has been one of the largest struggles and i am so happy that I am finally “getting” it. ♥ And hopefully in the future, because I have learned to love myself, I can have a successful, loving marriage sometime down the line.

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      • Hi Muse, yes, it’s Lauren and I’m sure many can relate to your struggle; I honestly don’t think you’re alone. I am thankful for my husband, kids, dog (:)) and life, but throughout the years, I find insecurities, too, maybe not to your degree, but they have been felt….so, I don’t know if I’m making sense at all, but I’ll send you virtual hugs, anyway! Have a wonderful Friday and again, I’m sincerely happy for you! ♥

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